Frequently Asked Questions

Following on from my diary I want to begin to put down what it is I want to write for my work and my legacy. One idea I have had is that I do a series of frequently asked questions and answers regarding issues that I work with.

Some of these might be as follows

Why do I continue to have the same problems when I begin a relationship with someone?

Why do I have so much difficulty trusting that my partner will be faithful to me?

Why am I always so miserable?

Why am I always repeating the same patterns?

Am I always going to have my life determined by past trauma?

Is my family going to be a slightly different version of my own upbringing?

How can I feel better about myself?

What is the purpose of being in therapy other than just helping me cope?

Can I get past feeling bitter?

I can be powerful and strong in my work role and lost in some other situations. Why?

Is it possible to change the fallout from past events rippling into the future?

Can’t I just decide to change my ways of behaving and stick to that?

I always find I get bullied or scapegoated at work and I don’t understand why?

I have a terrible relationship with my partner but I cant even imagine leaving?

I am so anxious about my children being safe and I don’t know why?

I find when I get anxious I talk way too much and I don’t know why?

I feel as if I am out of touch with my feelings but I don’t know what to do about it.

I don’t trust people for a very long time and I am very suspicious of other peoples motives.

I can’t get past my grief and I want to know how to get my life back and my joy.

I am afraid of getting old and I don’t know what is going on.

I just hate some people so much and I don’t know why?

I find that I am always resorting to being really tricky rather than straightforward even when it feels safe.

I have so much envy of people who are confident and who just get what they go after.

I feel very competitive with my friends and I sometimes feel desperate to be liked.

I don’t know where to go next in my life and I don’t know how to work out how to change this.

I am starting to feel desperate in my work life and really unhappy but I cant give up what I am good at.

I feel like I have a committee in my head and all the different voices are tearing me apart.

I know how to fall in love but I can’t ever sustain a long term relationship.

I get incredibly anxious when I post on the internet in case I am not liked.

I never feel at peace. Why ?

I always feel inadequate. Why?

I only seem to be able to feel ok with my partner when we have a fight and then do make up sex. Is this natural.

How do I get to have a happy intimate relationship?

My partner betrayed me and now when he/she tries hard to be close to me I feel disgusted?

I sometimes feel really small and like a child and it can happen suddenly and I take some time to come back. Sometimes I can cover it and sometimes I think I have been found out.

I cant get over the death of my father/ mother/ sister/ brother.

I always feel flat and feel like I am crying inside but I cant get to cry and my thoughts are dark.

I often feel suicidal and even though I don’t think I will go through with it I feel terrible.

There doesn’t seem to be anything to live for.

I feel hurt and I don’t think I will ever get over what happened.

My boyfriend/girlfriend dumped me and now I am obsessed by them and I feel like stalking them and I think about them all the time.

I’m in a job my family approves of but I hate it and I don’t know what I would do anyway if I left.

I hate how my family treats me and I keep going back for more.

I always notice the things I do badly and I can’t give myself any praise for the things I do well.

I am afraid of getting angry and so I try really hard to be calm but it slips out sideways and scares me.

I don’t get angry but I notice I get emotionally abusive and critical of people I am close to and they often disappoint me and then I feel lost.

I want to fall in love but it doesn’t happen to me. Why?

Is there something fundamentally wrong with me that can’t be fixed?

I never seem to get to feel satisfied with anything I do. Is that normal?

I was badly bullied and now I’m really afraid it will happen again.

My partner has a completely different story about who I am and hates me and is trying to turn my child against me.

I cant meditate and I don’t know why I can’t get to first base with this when others seem to have no problem with it.

I hate my body and I wont exercise or eat well. What is going on?

I am too afraid to socialise and I am spending a lot of time isolating and I don’t understand what is going on.

I am close to retirement and now I am getting really afraid of what my life will be like when I don’t have the structure of work to support me as well as a reduced income.

I have never reached my potential in any area of my life. In work or relationships or career or anything. Am I just a loser?